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Anonymous asked: I can't tell if me and my boyfriend of 3 years click anymore. When we first started dating, it literally felt like sparks were flying but after a few years, I feel like things have been going downhill. I also am having some major trust issues and I just don't know what to do at this point. Any help?

I think what your feeling is normal, after being together for so long you’re not sure how to feel or exactly how he feels. As bad as the word ‘break’ sounds, it could be beneficial. If you take a couple weeks break you’ll realize if you genuinely love him and need him in your life or you you’ll realize your happier without him. In the end, it’s about your happiness and shouldn’t stay in a relationship if your not. As for the trust part, there is no relationship without trust. Has he ever done anything to make you not trust him? That would be a different story. You might also want to tell him how you feel, maybe he feels the same scared way you do. Maybe he’ll reassure you about how much he loves you and only you. The break part could really help you guys though, if you love each other you’ll make it through anything!

xox -J

Anonymous asked: My parents have recently been fighting and i'm really scared about what the outcome might be. Should I talk to them?

In every marital relationship its normal for parents to have their share of differences. However, if the fighting begins to worsen to an extent that makes you uncomfortable it can be a scary experience for you at first hand. I think that if the fighting becomes more frequent to the point where you don’t feel comfortable in your day to day life, then you should bring up concern to your parents and just let them know that it upsets you and maybe ask them to not settle their differences while you are around. Please remember that this does not mean that your parents are going to love you any less, the problems they have are strictly between them. My parents are divorced and unfortunately as a young child I saw how scary it can be to see parents fight and argue.

It is unnerving to think about what may happen between your parents, but they both deserve to be happy in the end No matter what the outcome may turn out to be its important to know that none of the problems they are having have to do with you.

I hope that helps if you need anything else please let us know!

xxoo

-B.

Hey everyone! 

My name is Becky I’m 20 years old and I will be helping out with the advice with the help of the primary owner of the blog Jessica. She is my roommate and my best friend and we love helping each other and giving each other advice on a daily basis and I think that we could really make a difference by giving all of you an outlet to vent or to ask any kind of question that’s on your mind. Whether it be about college, high school, relationships, family, body image or friendships—-we will answer in a honest and meaningful way.

Personally I have dealt with a lot of hardship in my life and I feel like I could really help out with any issues that you guys are going through. Sometimes it helps to just have someone to listen and that’s really what I want to be for you guys—-someone who will listen.

-B.

Anonymous asked: how do you rekindle an old friend ship ?

I think that the best way to rekindle an old friendship is to open communication fully. Depending on the situation of why your friendship has fallen short in the past, try to move forward and let your friend become more involved in your life. Try inviting your friend out to do little things like get dinner or get a cup of coffee! It’s a fun and easy way to have light conversation and catch up on the things that the both of you may have missed. You may find that after some short time your friendship can become stronger than ever!

xxoo

-B.

Anonymous asked: hi, i just heard of this blog on my dash and i think its a splended idea&wonderful that your willing to do this for people! i was hoping for some advice myself though. last january i meet this guy.i have gone to school with him since i was in 1st grade he's a grade higher then me and we started talking last year and i dated him but i was still kinda caught up on somone else.i broke up with him.i regret it i want him back but he has a gf but i truly miss him, like ive been depressed with out him.

Hi thank you so much that means a lot! I know it will hurt a lot but the best thing to do is let him be in his relationship, he could possibly really like her and it wouldnt be fair to ruin that. If things werent meant to with this girl then things will eventually end and you can tell him how you feel. For now, focus on yourself. You dont need a guy to be happy! And eventually if things dont work out with this guy someone will come along that you feel even stronger for. Xox

Anonymous asked: My boyfriend is not motivated at all. He has periods where he seems okay, but suddenly he goes downhill and doesn't want to do any school work. It's even more difficult because he has trouble concentrating and staying focused. He refuses to acknowledge how brilliant he is and I just don't know what to do. He is so special to me. How can I convince him that he won't always feel this way? How can I motivate him enough for him to feel proud of himself? How can I show him how amazing he truly is?

The most important thing you can do for him is to be there for him. You can’t exactly make him motivated but you can support him and be there for him enough for him to realize that he wants and needs to do well. Always be there for him to rant to you. As for the school work, maybe you could invite him over or go to the library everyday for like two hours and do your work together? A simple ‘Hey do you want to do this project together, or want to come over and make some cookies and do our work? etc’ can go a long way. Make sure he knows how special he is to you. Tell him how smart you think he is. Tell him how amazing he is. Surprise him with cute things like candy to make him smile. Motivation comes from desire, and want. You can’t make him want to do well. You can help him do well and when he see’s how good it feels, hopefully he’ll continue to do these things and eventually build up motivation and pride! You’re the one he’ll tell most of his feelings to, so always being there for him is key.